Dear Reader,
Firstly, yes, you are correct, it appears that you have sole Guardianship for your daughter as you are her father are not married and you have not lived together for 12 months to include three months after your daughter was born. Further, you do not mention any Guardianship agreement that you have entered into or any Court Order conferring Guardianship on your child’s father.
Having sole Guardianship means that you are the only person who can make decisions about your daughter, such as where she goes to school, whether she has medical treatment, etc.
In response to the issues you are having with your child’s grandparents, grandparents do not have an automatic right to see their grandchildren. It is usually up to the guardians of the child to decide who they have access with.
If grandparents are not happy with the amount of access that they are permitted then they can make an application in the District Court. The court, when considering such applications, will take into account the following:
- The Grandparents connection with the child;
- The risk, if any, of any Order made disrupting the child's life to the extent that the child would be harmed by it;
- The wishes of the child's guardian(s);
- The views of the child; and
- Whether an Order is necessary for access to be facilitated.
The court, when making any decision in relation to a child, will have the child's best interests at the forefront of their decision making.
This process is much less confrontational than court proceedings and is better for all involved. However, sometimes, it is not possible to reach an agreement in mediation, which is when applications to the court become necessary.
In your case, I would advise you to have a meeting with your child's grandparents and set out what access you feel comfortable with. During this meeting, you can explain your concerns about any overnight access at this point and the high level of access they are seeking.
I am of the view that once-a-week access to grandparents is sufficient. It may be that in time, if all goes well and as your daughter gets older, that you can agree some more access between yourselves.
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